The Bully was ME! Twice!
As a kid, I was an overt and mean bully. As a manager, I learned ways of bullying covertly by hiding behind my rank. Although I may not have been as bad as other bosses, I was still a bully and very good at getting away with it.
In both situations, albeit years apart, I found ways to justify my behavior. I felt entitled to my actions!
I was wrong both times and had to look in the mirror long and hard to face up to the fact that it was ME who needed to change.
It took courageous and caring feedback from a few trusted colleagues to help me realize what I was doing, but it also took my years of remorse to humble and remind me that I had bullied before and could definitely be bullying others again.
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This is my own personal story. I hope it helps communicate the difficulty of changing bullying behavior both in our schools and places of work.
If only all Leaders would identify their vulnerabilities and turn them around for positive purposes.